And where did I learn to equate going it alone with virtue?

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Happy Sunday, Soothers. I had been torn lately on what seems like a very small decision, whether or not to go to my parents’ in the suburbs for the week of inauguration here in Washington, D.C. …

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The human experience is one of being, not of fixing.

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Happy Sunday, Soothers, and happy new year. As per usual, a lot is going on, with 2021 kicking things off with an attempted coup in my hometown. Cool, cool, cool… While I’ve been on newsletter break, I’ve actually been producing content in a lot of other places so first wanted to draw your attention…

In the liminal space

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Happy Sunday, Soothers. This is normally the time I’d be sharing an intentional gift guide with you, or my process to reflect and plan an intentional year, but, uh… yeah. Don’t feel like those quite hit the right notes, right now. (Though you can still access past versions of those if they are something you need! Review process; how to give thoughtfully)

The topics and routines and end-of-year reflections I often write about or offer just seem a bit silly, given that we’re in this very strange liminal, in-between, turbulent and uncertain phase, a phase which has lasted the better part of an entire year. …

I’ve always been a fan of writing letters. As a child, I would send letters full of stickers to a pen pal and felt a rush of excitement every time a reply appeared in the mailbox.

Today, as a life coach, I use letter writing differently. I see it as a tool to help us heal grievances, release what needs to be let go, and allow ourselves to speak into the world things we may have been holding on to out of fear. I regularly have my clients write letters to everyone from their toxic bosses to ex-partners to themselves.

I think that all of us, right now, could benefit from writing a letter to 2020. …

Carving out time for self-reflection at the end of the year

Taking time to reflect and prepare with a self-retreat

Happy Sunday, Soothers. About a month from now, I will be driving down to the Blue Ridge mountains, setting up in a little Airbnb cabin by myself, and doing my 2020 annual self-retreat that will help me reflect on everything that happened this year (lol) and set myself up for the things I want to feel, experience and achieve in 2021.

(Just in case it has to be said, I will be bringing my own food, not dining out or shopping in the area, only stopping for gas, wearing a mask, and totally solitary the whole time.) …

Creative alternatives to despair using your imagination

Creative alternatives to despair with imagination

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Happy Sunday, Soothers. If you found yourself exhausted in the past week, alternately joyful and numb, elated and down, in the aftermath of the U.S. presidential election, know that I’m right there with you. From Sunday to Wednesday, I was basically a husk of a human, staring at walls, wondering how this corporeal form can possibly contain and process so many emotions at once. It can and it did, of course, but it was a very physical experience and just know if you’re still tired or feeling any sort of way, it’s completely normal after a massively emotional event like the one the U.S. just collectively went through. …

The duality of life in a post-election world

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The duality of both

Happy Sunday, Soothers. Whew. I’m writing this at 5pm on Saturday, much later than I normally draft the Soother, because how the hell was I going to write anything without knowing the outcome of the U.S. presidential election? And we do. …

Where might you be settling?

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Do you settle for scraps in your life?

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Happy Sunday, Soothers. I was minding my business the other day when in my friend Slack (so essential to my well-being these days) somebody shared this article about Shonda Rhimes and why she moved from ABC/Disney to Netflix. …