Stop murdering your village of weirdos.

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Happy Sunday, Soothers. The idea for this week’s Soother percolated in my brain after reading this (as per usual) excellent advice essay from Heather Havrilesky…

Three intriguing exercises to try.

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How to, you know, actually start this whole self-acceptance thing.

Happy Sunday, Soothers. Self-acceptance! Self-self, acceptance! We all KNOW self-acceptance and self-compassion are keys to improving our lives, our mental health, our self-love, all the good…

Struggling with burden mentality.

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Happy Sunday, Soothers. As I’ve been enrolling the Soothe mastermind, and going more deeply into coaching with some 1:1 clients, I’m seeing a pendulum swing too far…

This summer, I wrote an essay titled “Instead of positive thinking, try this.” I posited that positive thinking wasn’t useful, and in fact, can be harmful. I then offered a framework for thinking in more useful ways.

I still think that holds, and it’s something I’ve been delving more into as I prepare to kick off my mastermind group this September. You see, I don’t believe in quote-unquote positive thinking. …

You can get better at making decisions, just not how you’ve been taught.

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Happy Sunday, Soothers. In my own personal work, and that of my clients, I naturally deal with a lot of black and white thinking. A lot of perfectionism. A lot of…

I use this term a lot in my work with coaching clients: despair mode.

I see folks slip into this place so easily. A mode of freak out. Of self pity. Of negativity. Of spiraling out about worst-case scenarios. Of what’s-the-point-ism. Of fear.

For most of my 40-plus years, this was my default, too. I was addicted to worst-case scenarios, of my own inability to change anything in my life, to my victim narrative.

What despair mode encouraged me to live in was two states: learned helplessness, and learned hopelessness.

The first, learned helplessness — well, if you read my…

The difference between indulging and processing emotions.

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Do you struggle with indulgent emotions?

Something I struggled with for a very long time was self-pity.

I was an expert at stewing on how I’d been wronged; why things…

When did you first know you were supposed to change?

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When did you first realize that you were expected to change?

For me, it was 1990, and I had just turned 10 years old.

Up until that point, I had been a…