They’re all about asking myself the right questions.
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New questions, new rules.
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Happy Sunday, Soothers. A saying I refer to often goes like this: The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask.
This maxim has guided my life in the last few years, and I can attribute a lot of my personal and professional success to it. I’ve written about this before; here’s an entire post I wrote on “The Best Questions I Ask Myself.” I also consistently refer back to Debbie Ford’s book, The Right Questions, when I’m struggling to make a decision. Some of her questions she writes about in that book include “Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?” and “Will I use this situation as a catalyst to grow and evolve or will I use it to beat myself up?”
As we head into 2022, I’ve been refining a list of questions I want to ask myself in the new year, more geared toward helping me to learn to rest (still a big struggle), learn to slow down (also, uh, an issue), and lean more into pleasure and joy than obligation.
I’ve developed this list of questions to take with me into the new year, and my new rule is this: I run choices and decisions, both business and personal, past this list and if the situation doesn’t pass muster, I must say no.