Why you’re going about recovering from perfectionism all wrong

Catherine Andrews
7 min readSep 13, 2021

Stop murdering your village of weirdos.

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This article is cross-posted from my weekly newsletter, The Sunday Soother, a newsletter about clarity, intention, and useful tips for creating more meaning in your life that goes out every Sunday morning. Subscribe here. I am also a coach who works with sensitive people so they can stop second-guessing, make decisions confidently and live the life they’ve always dreamed of. You can learn more about working with me here. And you can follow me @catherineandrews on Instagram.

Happy Sunday, Soothers. The idea for this week’s Soother percolated in my brain after reading this (as per usual) excellent advice essay from Heather Havrilesky at Ask Polly (it may be subscribers only). It’s worth a read but the issue boils down to this fact: the reader realizes she is dealing with perfectionism, and it’s impacted her life in so many negative ways, and now she’s trying to stop being so perfectionistic. Of course, the only problem is that SHE MUST STOP BEING SO PERFECTIONISTIC!!! Which is, of course, itself…perfectionism.

Havrilesky catches on to this right away, leaping in with this paragraph:

Wow! Do you see what you just did? You took your current challenge — to accept yourself and embrace the present moment — and turned it into an

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Catherine Andrews
Catherine Andrews

Written by Catherine Andrews

Teaching awakening + healing through vulnerability + self-compassion. Finding hope in a messy world. Author of the Sunday Soother. http://catherinedandrews.com

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