Let’s aim for useful, not positive.

This article is cross-posted from my weekly newsletter, The Sunday Soother, a newsletter about clarity, intention, and useful tips for creating more meaning in your life that goes out every Sunday morning. Subscribe here. I am also a coach who works with sensitive people so they can stop second-guessing, make decisions confidently and live the life they’ve always dreamed of. You can learn more about working with me here.

Happy Sunday, Soothers. Since I work primarily with sensitive women, a lot of what we delve into is the loops of negative thinking, processing, and…

Learning how we can meet our own needs

This article is cross-posted from my weekly newsletter, The Sunday Soother, a newsletter about clarity, intention, and useful tips for creating more meaning in your life that goes out every Sunday morning. Subscribe here. I am also a coach who works with sensitive people so they can stop second-guessing, make decisions confidently and live the life they’ve always dreamed of. You can learn more about working with me here.

I have a long history with people-pleasing.

Happy Sunday, Soothers. People-pleasing is a condition I’ve dealt with for much of my life, mostly unaware of it happening. I would believe…

This article is cross-posted from my weekly newsletter, The Sunday Soother, a newsletter about clarity, intention, and useful tips for creating more meaning in your life that goes out every Sunday morning. Subscribe here. I am also a coach who works with sensitive people so they can stop second-guessing, make decisions confidently and live the life they’ve always dreamed of. You can learn more about working with me here.

My grandparents asked something of me in a dream recently.

Happy Sunday, Soothers. Two weeks before my grandmother died, she showed up in a dream with my grandfather, and my father’s parents, too. …

#1? Simple isn’t the same as easy.

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Life keeps on teaching… whether I want it to or not!

Happy Sunday, Soothers. I’m here today with four concepts and lessons that have been showing up for me, and as I teach and coach…

It’s the same.

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On pain now or later.

I wrote the below on Wednesday, closed my laptop, went to sit with my grandmother, and an hour later, with me, my mother, and her longtime beloved aide…

How well do you understand your needs?

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Your resentment is an invitation into understanding your needs.

Happy Sunday, Soothers. Here’s a surprising theory I’m going to posit today:

Many of us don’t actually know what we need. Especially emotionally.

And…

As a writer and coach, I think a lot of people like my work because I ask really good questions. I once heard the concept of “asking high-quality questions to determine high-quality answers” and I dismissed it as self-help fluff, but I’ve found through my work with myself and others that honestly, it’s true.

So whenever I am facing sticky situations, or fearful ones, or when I find myself caught in a shame loop that threatens to take over, I return to this list of questions to remind myself, over and over again, that if I ask the right questions…

Is it possible?

This article is cross-posted from my weekly newsletter, The Sunday Soother, a newsletter about clarity, intention, and useful tips for creating more meaning in your life that goes out every Sunday morning. Subscribe here. I am also a coach who works with sensitive people so they can stop second-guessing, make decisions confidently and live the life they’ve always dreamed of. You can learn more about working with me here.

Happy Sunday, Soothers. I don’t remember a lot of my childhood, but I have a distinct memory of bedtime when I was around the ages of 5–7 or…